I hear my Bishop and friend saying, LIG, let it go. He reminded me on several occasions to let go of the past, the people, and the pain they caused me. Instead of letting it go, there were many times when I wanted to take care of it. Each individual, each situation, and each level of pain; I wanted to handle it. How dare he tell me to let people off the hook for the things they had done to me.
My daddy always told me, "when people show you who they are, believe them the first time." How many times would I have to experience this before I would truly believe them. You see, I have always wanted to be loved. Therefore, I would always give more than I should have. Take more than the average person would have; and make excuses for the reasons why I could have. God using people in so many ways, it is absolutely fascinating.
Don't look at people as trying to tell you what to do. Instead, look at them for telling you what not to do. My experience has been when I stop, look, and listen, I find myself dealing with much less pain that I would have if I had not. Yes, I know its difficult to do when you always feel like you have to be in control. You have to do this and you have to do that. But sister girls let me tell you. That could not be any further from the truth.
Sometimes in life we can eliminate a lot of pressure and pain, if we will just listen. Believe me, I know this is hard to do. I know it is hard for us to give over our control and allow someone else to lead and guide. After all, who knows any better than we do, the things that are best for us. At least that is what we think.
So ladies, I don't mind being transparent and I don't mind sharing with you the mistakes I've made. Why? Because I have already suffered, I have already cried and I have already lost too much for you to do the same. I want you to be happy, healthy, and whole; and the best way to do that is to: Let it Go, Do the right thing, and believe people when they introduce themselves to you the first time.
Stop wasting time on people and things that mean you no good. Instead, learn to love and spend time with you. So what people may call you selfish. Ok. Be selfish. After all, you are the only person who has a genuine desire to make you happy.